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Meet A.M. Manay…

Hello, bloggers!!

I am pleased to welcome a very special guest today… RRBC’s “SPOTLIGHT” Author, A.M. Manay! This lady, Anne Margaret, is a super supportive member of our book club. She’s always eager to host others and shower them with support. She is so deserving of this hot seat and I do hope you’ll help me promote/support/celebrate this amazing author.

So, as always, please enjoy………

“The Mommy Novelist” by A.M. Manay

One of my primary roles in life is being mother to a 6-year-old boy.  Parenthood changes a person.  In my case, that parenthood was also particularly hard-won.  We adopted our son as a newborn after battling infertility.  I am especially grateful for my child and acutely conscious of my good fortune.  I suspect strongly that my mommyhood has influenced me both as a reader and as a writer, and it certainly served as the “push” to get me to start writing again.

We decided from the start that I would stay at home with our son.  I didn’t want to miss anything, and my chronic illness (Lupus) makes full-time work outside the home a dicey proposition, anyway.  But motherhood to a small child can be isolating, even boring.  When you spend all your time talking to a 2-year-old, you start to feel like your mind is turning to mush.  When this feeling began to depress me, I turned to writing.  Suddenly, my mental wheels were turning, and I had an emotional, artistic, and intellectual outlet.  Would I have rediscovered this passion were I still working a normal job?  I doubt it.

Having a child has also affected my taste in reading.  For example, I could not get through Hunger Games.  I could tell it was a great book, but I could not handle the idea of all those kids killing each other.  As soon as Rue was introduced, all I could think was, “I bet she dies first.  Nope.  Noooope.  Nopey, nope, nope.”  I can handle a kid being in some danger in a book, but with a new baby in the house and in my heart, I needed some confidence that things would turn out okay.  This has pretty much become a “no dead kids rule” as far as my “to be read” list is concerned.

This distaste for dead children carries over into my own work.  I made November turn 18 in the first few chapters of She Dies at the End (November Snow Book 1) because I didn’t want her to be going through all that drama as a child.  I made sure that Carlos, the only child in the book, though very much traumatized by the villain, is protected by all the other “good guy” characters.  (Spoiler alert— he doesn’t die.)  Even that was pushing my limits.  I know kids die in real life all the time.  I simply do not need to face that in my escapist fiction.

How does your parenthood or non-parenthood affect your own work or tastes?  I’d love to hear about it in the comments.

About the Author


In addition to her work as an indie author of paranormal new adult fantasy, A.M. Manay is a former inner-city chemistry teacher, a singer, a yoga enthusiast, and a mother through domestic open adoption. She has a passion for increasing diversity in popular culture and for strong heroines who stand up for themselves, make their own decisions, and don’t depend on romance as their reason for being.

Author Links for A.M. Manay

Twitter: @ammanay

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Thank you so much for joining me today and helping show Anne Margaret the support she deserves! Please continue that support by visiting her other “SPOTLIGHT” Author Blog Tour Hosts! Don’t forget to check out her awesome November Snow Series!

Until next time………… Happy Reading & Reviewing!!

42 thoughts on “Meet A.M. Manay…”

  1. Reblogged this on Jan Hawke INKorporated and commented:
    Tender investigation of the effects of motherhood on a creative writer… Anne Margaret – I kind of know how you feel, but, not being a mother (to a full-term human being) myself, I must put my hand up and admit that the lead female character of my current WIP will be having severe difficulties in keeping her children for one reason or another.
    Life experience is a core resource for writers – I’m glad you have this to draw so positively on. And thanks for keeping November and Carlos safe! 😀

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  2. A.M. has become one of my favorite authors. I like her philosophy about having strong heroines as role models for our young people. And, I was interested to learn about her many talents…chemistry and yoga…besides her talent as an author.
    Nice interview, Jan.

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  3. Re-blogged this on When Angels Fly.

    How does your parenthood or non-parenthood affect your own work or tastes? First off I can say with certainty that you won’t be reading my memoir for you see, my youngest son dies after a horrid cancer battle. This is sad because there are so many messages that need to go out to others who have been in various situations and help on how to deal with them. You won’t know those messages. However, except for my cookbook and gallery book, the rest are children’s books and all of them reflect parenthood and teaching children in various ways. The use is illustrations and animals in my children’s books are for entertainment only, but the messages are for children in real life. In summation, parenthood is 95 percent of my books.

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    1. I guess I should have been more specific. I don’t like to read fiction where kids die because when I read fiction, I’m mostly looking to be entertained. A memoir is a different animal altogether. I read a memoir to learn about the real world and the human condition. I’m looking at your book on my shelf right now, and it is definitely on my list. It’s interesting how much parenthood changes us, and informs our work, both fiction and non. And I am so sorry for your loss.

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  4. That was a great story about your journey to discover your writing muse. We all have to get there in our own different ways, but I believe that having the time, in your hands, is usually the best place to start. I loved the November 1 book, and look forward to finding out more about her. :D. Thank you Marlena for hosting her. 🙂

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  5. I loved the story of how you found your writing muse, A.M. Having read two of the November Snow books, now I can further appreciate the ways you kept Carlos safe and also that you made November an adult before the true difficulties started. I’ve heard Lupus can be very painful and wish you only the best. You’re a talented writer and a lovely lady!

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    1. Kids in thrillers do tend to become collateral damage, which I definitely find off-putting. It seems gratuitous sometimes. Thanks so much for stopping by!

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  6. Great post! Thanks for hosting this leg of Anne Margaret’s tour, Marlena. I agree that Fictional works are such a different animal than non-fiction, memoirs in particular. Life experiences cast differing shadows on our works of fiction. We create worlds that can’t help but encompass a part of who we are.
    Memoirs reflect what we once were, and the choices we make to become all we have yet to be. My daughter and my grandson color my life now … and those colors are radiant, warming, and light every corner of my world. I am so looking forward to reading your books Anne Margaret.

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  7. I can understand how parenthood could affect your writing. I find it difficult to kill off characters (any) in a book, even the bad guys. Where’s the hope for redemption if they die. I certainly don’t think I could kill off a child. In one of the versions of Mystical Emona, Sonia died as a baby. Even though it had happened before the story happened, it bothered me. My writing partner and I finally found a better solution.

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  8. Thank you for sharing your journey to writing with us, A. M.! It’s a real joy learning more about you during your blog tour. I have a disability (spinal cord injury when I was 18 years old) and can relate to the challenges endured. I have deep respect for your beliefs regarding the fate of children characters in books. I don’t have children, but I take my role of doggie mom to heart. Just thinking of the movie Marley and Me brings me to tears, and that was the natural course of life. Thanks again. 🙂
    Thanks for the warm welcome, Marlena!

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  9. CONGRATULATIONS A.M. Manay! I’m so happy for you and sorry I have not been here to cheer you on. Have a great spotlight and I will be sharing this to my followers.

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  10. Hi Annmargaret, I am almost caught up!! I would never have kids die in my stories but since one of my own did, I had no choice. Like you I preferred to stay at home with my 6 kids and then as they grew up I got lyme which is similar to lupus and was difficult to commit to working full time. Writing was a blessing which keeps me going as it does you, I’m sure.I hope you are having a great time on your tour!!

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    1. I love how writing opens new doors for people, it’s the answer to a lot of prayers, and it’s a wonderful escape. Thanks so much for stopping by, Micki!!


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